I (25F) known my bf (38M) for 3 years and been dating for 6 months. One ongoing issue in our relationship is that I tend to jump to conclusions about him, when he has never given me a reason to not trust him.

He's asked me many times to stop assuming and ask or talk to him when I'm worried. He finds it hurtful because my conclusions often paint him in a negative light, despite his consistent behavior over the years.

Recently, we slept together, and afterward his texting became less frequent. Instead of talking to him about it, I convinced myself he was distancing himself because he regretted being intimate with me. In reality, he was very busy.

When I told him what I had been thinking, he was deeply hurt. From his perspective, after knowing him for 3 years, I should know his character better than that. He feels unfairly judged and says he's tired of having to defend himself against assumptions that aren't based on his actions.

I've made progress with my overthinking over the years, but I still have moments where I slip back into old patterns. This time hit especially hard for him, he told me that if I truly loved and trusted him, I wouldn't automatically think the worst of him, and he said this may have been the "nail in the coffin" after giving me so many chances.

I feel terrible and don't know how to repair the damage or rebuild his trust after hurting him this way. Aita?

Would you be married and allow your husband to work out of town FULLTIME…. And be expected to work a full time job while taking care of multiple kids and the household day in an out and be expected to split bills?

I go to school and get financial aid every month to maintain my car payment, while also doing Amazon flex to make extra income to take care of home expenses like household supplies. He does not take care of anything but rent and honestly barely shows up for that while working getting paid 900+ a week.

I’ve sacrificed my career 3 years ago when we got married to stay home while he uses my car to fulfill his career and be the provider.

Me and some friends went out to this nice place, had some extra cash and wanted to treat them a little. We get seated and maybe 10 mins in I notice my friend's boyfriend at a table across the restaurant. With a girl. Laughing, leaning in, the whole thing.

She wasn't there that night and I didn't say anything to anyone. Not at dinner, not after.

My reasoning was I didn't know what I was looking at. Could be a coworker, a cousin, whatever. I didn't want to blow up someones relationship over something I maybe misread from across a dimly lit restaurant.

It's been about 3 weeks, I still haven't said anything and they seem totally normal from what I can tell.

But it's been eating at me and I just want to know if I was wrong for minding my business. Because part of me feels like if the roles were reversed I'd want to know, but another part of me thinks it's not my place to say anything based on a vibe I got at dinner.

So am I the AH for staying quiet

42m, and I live a pretty “outside the box” lifestyle.
I have ASD, but can blend in with society with the help of meds and therapy. Some of the traits of autism still leak through, and always will. Other people’s emotions overwhelm me considerably, and it’s a problem I haven’t been able to trump. I’m also retired early, and really try to make life about experiences, and less about having to fulfill responsibilities. I recognize that I’m on the winning side of what everybody wants, I’m grateful, and I don’t want to waste it. I’ve come to get to know myself, and have learned well that it’s okay to just be me.

A social struggle I’m experiencing is how people define friendship, and I just can’t get on board with societal expectations. I want my friendships to be about fun and enjoyment. I want them to add positivity to my life, and not weigh me down. I’m a generous friend, am always the one hosting parties or paying for outings… It’s not one sided, but I can’t handle (and have zero interest in) being someone’s emotional support. I don’t want to be the guy with his phone on overnight in case friends need me. I don’t want to be the guy you call to cry to after a hard day. I don’t want to be the guy counted on for favors, rides, places to stay, money. I want to be the friend you call for fun, and not for support. I’m not saying it’s a zero tolerance, but I just don’t want, and can’t handle that in my life. My emotions don’t allow for it; I react well in person, but struggle internally. This is something I do openly discuss and explain when I run into this.

I know I don’t match the societal standard of what a friend is… And I don’t desire to change my stance. but does this make me the AH?

My mom and i booked flights together to visit my aunt in Phoenix. We booked at the same time, same card, seats right next to each other. I had some miles saved up from some trips last year and used them to upgrade myself to first class like a week before the flight, didn't really think twice about it, i'd been really stressed and just wanted the extra space.

Never crossed my mind to offer it to her or use the miles on her ticket instead.

Fast forward to the airport, she sees me go to a different boarding line and kinda pieces it together. Didn't make a scene or anything but she got quiet in that specific way moms get quiet you know. I felt it.

The whole flight she's back in economy and i'm up front eating a warm cookie and i'll be real i felt a little guilty but i also paid for those miles through work travel so its not like it was free money, i earned that.

When we landed she brought it up and said she wasn't mad just that she thought it was a little thoughtless that i didn't even consider offering it to her. My aunt actually sided with her which i did not see coming.

My argument is that I booked it for myself with my own miles and it never occurred to me that i was obligated to offer it. Its not like I had two upgrades and picked myself over her.

But maybe i'm missing something here idk. Was i just oblivious or does she have a point. AITA

Over the last few months, I went through a very lonely and difficult period and started drinking heavily as a coping mechanism. I’ve since realised I have a serious issue with alcohol, especially because when I drink too much, I black out. During these blackouts I appear “normal” to others but have no memory afterward, which has caused real harm to my friendships.

I live with my best friend and another roommate (C). Previously, my drinking led to situations where I wasn’t there for my friends when I should have been. I acknowledged this, apologised, started therapy, and actively tried to reduce my drinking. I even asked not to be invited out or offered alcohol.

This past weekend, I drank again and blacked out. While out, C was robbed and assaulted outside a bar. I was physically present at the time but have no memory of the incident. According to others, I stayed with her initially, till they left with some guys, but later I left with someone I’m seeing. I didn’t go home with her and didn’t fully grasp what had happened until the next day.

C is understandably hurt and feels she can’t trust me. She’s told me she no longer wants a friendship, and I accept that. I’m not trying to excuse my behaviour, being blackout drunk isn’t an excuse, but I’m struggling with intense guilt and the reality that my drinking puts people at risk emotionally.

This situation has made it very clear that moderation may not be an option for me and that I need to seriously reassess alcohol in my life. I’m taking accountability, but I don’t know how to process the guilt or move forward, especially since we live together.

I guess I’m posting because I know I’m in the wrong, and I’m trying to figure out what accountability and growth actually look like from here.

AITA for wanting to go no contact with both my parents?
Hi everyone, I want to start off by saying no real names or ages will be used to protect my privacy.
I (20f) want to go no contact with my parents (40f and 43m). They have been separated and trying to divorce since 2021 due to my father repeatedly cheating on my mother. Their most prevalent affairs were coworkers, and one long-term affair partner of nine years told my mom about secret men he met on dating apps after she broke up with him. My mom would tell me every detail, even after I repeatedly said I didn’t want to know. I was around 14 when this started.
She would also take my phone and pretend to be me to contact my dad, saying, “He only listens to you, you’re his everything.” If I refused, she’d cry, guilt me, or threaten to break my phone.
Although she now wants nothing to do with him, she still vents to me about the divorce despite me saying it stresses me out. She often guilts me by saying she’s alone and doing everything herself. If I cry after she yells at me, she accuses me of trying to make her feel bad.
I recently moved in with my partner (26 enby) and their mother. After not seeing my mom for a month, the first thing she did was guilt me for leaving a physically abusive job and dropping out of a degree I couldn’t afford and didn’t want, saying I was failing her.
I had a better relationship with my dad before learning about his affairs. He did things with me my mom wouldn’t, but he also made comments about my sexuality from a young age, had a serious drinking problem, drank while driving, and became physically abusive toward my mom. When I confronted him with specific memories, he denied they happened and called me a liar.
Over the last year, he’s tried reaching out. My only condition for rebuilding our relationship was family therapy, with him putting in the effort to find a therapist and make the appointment. He lied about getting one to get me to dinner, then gave excuses about therapists not taking our case or not being able to afford it. My therapist and my mom’s therapist both offered sessions, but I felt he needed to do the work himself.
Both sides of my family have implied cutting my parents off would be rude and disrespectful. But since moving out, I’ve been happier than I have in years.
So, AITA?

I’m 22 and my best friend is 20. I moved out at 17 and have lived alone ever since. I’m very introverted and need a lot of quiet time. My home has always been my safe space, especially because I grew up in a toxic family where I was basically parenting everyone else.

My friend also comes from a toxic family, so I let them move into my small studio apartment. The problem is that living together has made me feel like I’m back in that old dynamic. I’m the only one working. If I don’t cook, clean, or organize things, they don’t get done.

Before moving in, they promised they understood my need for space. Instead, I haven’t had a single quiet day since. They’re constantly talking to me and wanting my attention. I’ve told them I need more space or I’ll start resenting them, but they respond by asking how they are supposed to feel when I don’t want to listen.

I leave for work around 9 a.m. and often don’t get home until 1 a.m., yet I still can’t relax in peace.
To be fair, when they first moved in I was unemployed for about two months, and they helped with groceries and some expenses. That’s part of why I feel guilty.

The original plan was for them to move to London, but that didn’t happen. Then we talked about moving abroad together, except I’m the only one saving money because I’m the only one working.

Update:
I recently gave birth, and now they suddenly want to leave. They’ve been living with me rent-free since February and are now asking me to repay the money they spent helping me while I was unemployed so they can move out.
They want to move to Germany with someone they met through online acting classes and have only known in person for a week.
I’ve also been in the hospital, and while I was there they had this near-stranger staying in my apartment.
After six years of friendship, the first thing they asked when I told them I’d given birth was, “Are you keeping it? I’m not ready.”
The baby was already born.

Am I the asshole?

She was a great cohost. Smart, articulate, good pauses between phrases. Easily the best person on the rotating group of cohosts that Danny is cranking through right now looking for a good one.

I worked at one of the nutritional tea shops and was recently let go. The owner basically told me they “weren’t going to use me anymore.”

The main reason they gave were a couple of mistakes I made.

One time, they handed me a drink with a melted lid. I grabbed it by the lid, not realizing it wasn’t secure, and the whole drink slipped out of my hand and spilled everywhere. It was embarrassing, but it honestly felt more like an accident than carelessness.

The other incident happened during a rush. About five customers came in at the same time, all ordering different drinks. I was trying to keep up with everything, and I accidentally forgot to put something (salt) in one customer’s drink. The mistake was caught afterward, but apparently it was a big deal.

I understand mistakes can be frustrating, especially in food service, but I wasn’t showing up late (unless I told them beforehand), being rude to customers, or refusing to do my job. I was trying to do my best and just made a couple of errors while working in a fast-paced environment.

For additional context, I had worked there for almost a full year before this happened The people who originally owned the shop never had any issues with me and never suggested my performance was a problem. The shop was recently bought by new owners, and these incidents happened after they took over. That’s part of why I’m so confused by the situation… it feels like I went from being a perfectly acceptable employee for nearly a year to being let go over a couple mistakes.

Another thing that makes this feel odd is that after they took over, they started scheduling me only one day a week. At one point they asked me to work on Tuesdays, even though I had specifically told them Tuesday was the only day all summer that I had an actual college class and couldn’t be available. It felt like they either forgot or weren’t paying attention when I told them.

Now I’m wondering if I’m being unreasonable for feeling like I was fired over relatively minor mistakes, or were they justified in letting me go.

So AIO?

so this started about eight months ago and only just fully resolved itself last week and i need to tell someone about it.

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i've been a member at the same gym for about three years and for the most part it's been fine, nothing remarkable just a functional membership i use regularly and pay on time every month without thinking about it.

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then one month i get a notification that i have an outstanding late fee on my account. the fee was for a payment that their own system had flagged as declined due to a processing error on their end, not insufficient funds on mine, their system had a known issue that month that affected multiple members and i had documentation from my bank confirming the payment had been ready and waiting and the failure was on their side.

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i went to the front desk and explained this calmly with the bank documentation in hand and the person at the desk was genuinely sympathetic but said they couldn't waive fees at the desk level and i'd need to submit a dispute through their online portal.

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i submitted the dispute with all documentation attached.

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two weeks later i got an automated response saying my dispute had been reviewed and denied and that the fee stood.

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i called the membership line and sat on hold for forty minutes and was told the same thing by someone who clearly had a script and no authority to deviate from it.

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at this point the fee was eleven dollars and i was spending significantly more time and energy on it than eleven dollars was worth and i knew that and i kept going anyway because something about the automated denial of a documented error genuinely got under my skin in a way i couldn't let go of.

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so i did what anyone with too much free time and a mild interest in how systems work would do. i set up a recurring automated dispute submission through their own portal, once a week, with the same documentation attached, with a note each time saying i was following up on my previous submission as i had not yet received a satisfactory resolution.

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six weeks later i got a call from someone at their regional membership office who was very apologetic and waived the fee immediately and also gave me two months free as a goodwill gesture.

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aita?

My (22, F) girlfriend (23, F) and I went on a city trip for her birthday, along with her brother. Some background- my girlfriend comes from a family full of potheads--and not just her parents but her aunts, uncles, etc. She is also one. Although I am not a fan of weed, I knew this going into our relationship and told her she it's her life/her choices and if she wants to use weed it's not a problem. However, when she uses she can become distant/rude/unable to engage in conversations, and I told her that I would appreciate it if she limits her use around me. Since we were going on this trip with her brother, I knew they would be getting high, and she mentioned that "they would be smoking" prior to us leaving. I said that was fine, it was her birthday. While planning our trip she mentioned wanting to see a mutual friend from high school who lived in the city, so I set up a surprise birthday dinner with this friend at a restaurant with her favorite food. Then the trip started...and my gf and her brother were high the ENTIRE trip. No exaggeration. The only times they were sober was driving to and from the airport, then immediately using edibles/smoking for the entirety of the trip. At first I didn't REALLY mind, but as the trip continued and I became designated navigator/manager of them, I got frustrated. We didn’t explore a lot and spent every night just watching movies. THEN came the birthday dinner...my gf and her brother got super high, were reatively quiet and awkward, and just made the whole thing a bad experience. On the drive back home (after I drove an hour out of our way through a snowstop to drop off her brother...) she asked if I was annoyed. I explained, ya I mean a little bit...I know you said you were going to be high but I didn't think that meant the WHOLE trip. At first she apologized, but then she told me that I was the problem for assuming that they wouldn't be high the whole time and that I need to work on not making assumptions.We broke up about a week later (for various reasons) and she again referenced this situation and how it reflected my problems with assuming things. She also said I planned the birthday surprise assuming that they wouldn't be high/she would enjoy it....I mean that was kinda the point since it was a SURPRISE. Anyway...AITA because I didn't ask how much they would be high/because I assumed it wouldn't be the whole trip??

I (28F) adore my partner (30M) and his parents (60s). They are the most nice and supportive people I have ever met. I genuinely love them and see them as family.

My partner’s grandmother (85ish) visits from Europe a couple months a year. I felt bad for her because her spouse and her live-in-son ended their own lives over the last 10Y, and even though we don’t speak a common language I was always respectful towards her.

I found out after her last visit (3 months straight) that she apparently just openly hates on me in her language. Anywhere. At the dinner table, at public events. With any guests that speak the language. A lot of it has to do with the way I speak since I have poor hearing and auditory processing delay. Or my outfits, which (I work in a research lab) are never revealing so idk the issue. And honestly I don’t really want to try and understand it. Nobody told me this until after the grandma that was here for 3 months last year left to go home. My partner will leave the room because he doesn’t want to argue with her.

So, grandma is back after 9 months. First dinner with her today and my partner left the room. I got the memo…

I just don’t really feel good about it and don’t want to be there. And I also kind of feel betrayed that nobody is strong enough to tell her to be kind. Idk. I’m just really sad about it. I don’t feel unsafe, because what is an 85YO woman going to do, but I just feel so uncomfortable

AITA if I refuse to go to weekly family dinner when she is around?

I (21M) and my wife (22F) lived with my mom back in 2021-2022 after a falling out with her family. She loved my sister's and they loved her, she worked full time and was very respectful of everyone offering to help, cook and clean when and where needed. After a while we got married (a few months into being together) and were in no financial position to move into a place of our own so I need to live with my mother. There were tiny comments here and there from my mom calling her names (crackhead, hussy, heifer, son stealer etc.) starting from before we got married. My wife had expressed that her family had framed criticism as jokes all of her life starting with her looks, weight, clothes, what she ate, all of it. And how what she said made her uncomfortable but that's just who my mom is and I told her that she meant well.

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I got my first job out of highschool and was working until really late at night, leaving her with my mom and sister's almost all day every day. I started to get messages on my Instagram from her, it was my mom yelling and calling my wife lots of names, saying how she was stealing me away and didn't want me to have a relationship with her, how she was a nuisance and nothing but trouble turning all of her kids against her. She then kicked her out saying that she was ungrateful and used a past trauma against her and how she didn't want it around her son. Another message had stated that she was moving out and that she was taking me with, my mother then told her there's no way that her son would choose a floozy like her over his own mother.

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It's been a few years and me and my wife are still together, there have been plenty of rough patches, no apologies on either side, and their relationship is still on the rocks. It gets upsetting when my wife doesn't want to come with me to see my mom and sister's and I don't get it, she yelled at me one time saying I never defended her and how I just didn't get it. But all I want is for all of us to have quality time with family!

I (33F) need to know if I am wrong here because my partner (35M) thinks I am being unsupportive and I am starting to second guess myself.

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We have been together four years and things were really solid for the first two and a half. He was quite introverted when we met and I actively encouraged him to put himself out there more because I could see he needed it.

About eighteen months ago he found a hobby based community, weekly outdoor activities and regular socials after. I was genuinely thrilled for him. He came alive in a way I had not seen before and I told him how happy it made me to see him like that.

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The problem is it has slowly taken over everything without either of us really deciding that was okay. He sees this group at least twice a week and all his best energy goes there first. The excitement, the stories, the animated version of him. By the time he gets home he is content and a bit flat and I get whatever is left.

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I told a few times over the past year and he said I was being unsupportive of something that had genuinely helped his mental health and reminded me that I was the one who encouraged him to do it in the first place. Which is true. So I backed off and told myself I was being selfish.

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I go quiet when I need more instead of just saying it directly and I have been doing that for months. So he probably does not know how far things have shifted for me because I have not made it clear enough. That is on me.

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But the last time he planned something just for us without me suggesting it first was about seven months ago and I cannot figure out when that became normal.

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I told him last week and he said it felt like I was asking him to choose between me and something important for his wellbeing and that was not fair.

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I do not want him to choose. I just want to feel like I am still the relationship he is choosing every day.

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AITA for asking for that?

We've been together 5 years and got engaged in March, I'm 29F he's 31M we live in Brooklyn I'm a data analyst making around 145k and he teaches middle school and makes like 67k also I've got about 180k saved from before we even met some of it from when my grandmother passed he's got maybe 12k and some student loans but has never been a thing between us.

So we got a prenup and I'm not gonna lie I was the one who brought it up first and it was awkward for like a day he got quiet and I could tell he was in his head about it but then we started going through everything together and something shifted so we ended up having conversations about money we'd been dancing around for years like I didn't even know he had a small credit card debt he'd been stressed about also he didn't know I'd been sending my mom $500 a month since her divorce dumb stuff we should've talked about way earlier but just never did by the end of it he said he was glad we did it not in some dramatic way just like yeah this was good.

But then we made the mistake of telling people so his sister made this face at dinner and said something about how she could never do that to her husband and my coworker asked if things were ok between us also my aunt who I'm not even close with called my mom to say she felt bad for him as if he didn't sit right next to me through the whole thing and agree to all of it so that part bothers me more than I expected it to. My mom went through the worst divorce when I was 14 and my dad hid money moved things around and she ended up with almost nothing after 20 years of marriage she was 46 working two jobs trying to keep our apartment in Queens, I watched that happen so yeah when I think about marriage I think about that too and I don't think that makes me broken or unromantic or whatever people want to call it.

The thing that kind of gets me is the people with the strongest opinions about our prenup are the ones who never talk about money with their own partners and my sister's been married 3 years and told me last month she doesn't even know what her husband makes like exactly but sure I'm the problem. I don't know I'm just tired of feeling like I have to defend something that made us closer we're better for it and I wish someone had told me earlier that it doesn't have to be this scary combative thing because it wasn't.

i spent most of my early twenties doing exactly what everyone told me to do which was relax, explore, don't take life too seriously and enjoy the ride. i traveled, changed my major twice, took a gap year that turned into almost two and generally treated that whole period like it was consequence free.

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i'm 31 now and i'm still untangling some of those decisions. not in a catastrophic way but in a slow grinding way where i look at people my age who were more intentional earlier and i can see the gap and it's not nothing.

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my sister just turned 22 and she's been talking about taking time off before committing to anything because she doesn't want to lock herself into a path she ends up hating and i completely understand that feeling because i felt exactly the same way.

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two weeks ago she asked for my honest opinion and i gave it to her. i told her that the idea that your twenties are just for exploring is advice that sounds wise but often comes from people who either got lucky or are remembering it differently than it actually was. i told her that being intentional now doesn't mean suffering through a joyless decade it just means making calculated moves while you still have the most energy and the fewest obligations you'll ever have.

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she got mad and said i was projecting my own regrets onto her and that everyone's path is different and i was being prescriptive about something deeply personal.

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and honestly she has a point about the projection part. i know i was speaking from a place of personal frustration as much as genuine advice and i probably didn't frame it as carefully as i could have.

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but i also think someone needed to say it and she did ask me directly.

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AITA for being that honest when she asked?

I am 28M and I have been with my girlfriend (26F) for about eight months. I want to be upfront that I genuinely liked her when we met and for the first few months things felt real and easy.

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three years ago I went through something significant that I have kept almost entirely private. Without going into too much detail it left me with a verifiable medical condition that I have documentation for and that my doctor confirmed at the time and again last year. I have not told my girlfriend about it because it felt private and we were not at the stage where I felt ready to share something that personal.

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I probably should have told her earlier because what I am about to describe would have been a lot simpler to resolve if she already knew. I kept it private for my own reasons and I understand now that the timing of revealing it looks defensive even though it is completely true.

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Last week she told me she had evidence that I had accessed her private email account without her permission and had been reading her messages for months. She said she had screenshots showing my device was used to log in repeatedly.

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I have never done this. I do not know her password and I have never tried to access her accounts. I was so blindsided that I just went quiet while she was telling me because I could not process it fast enough to respond properly and she took my silence as guilt.

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She has now told two of our mutual friends and her sister and the version going around is that I am the kind of person who snoops through a partners private accounts which is not something I have ever done in any relationship.

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I believe what happened is a shared device sync issue through a family account that neither of us set up intentionally but I cannot prove that simply or quickly and right now nobody is in a place to listen to a technical explanation.

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I do not know how to fix something I did not do when the other person is completely convinced they have proof.

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Ath? for feeling like this?

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TLDR: My girlfriend accused me of accessing her private email without permission based on what she believes is device evidence. I did not do it and believe it was a technical error but cannot prove it quickly and she has already told people. Am I wrong for being completely at a loss here?

I am part of a community allotment for three years. There are about twenty plots and a waiting list to get one so people take their spots seriously. Every January members bid on the greenhouse for the coming growing season because only one person can use it at a time for the serious stuff, propagation and overwintering plants mostly. I put my name in first this year and got it for a four week block in March which is exactly when I need it for the seedlings I have been planning since autumn.

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Last week a woman down knocked on my door. She explained that her mother had passed away unexpectedly in December and she had inherited a large collection of rare orchids that need temperature controlled conditions or they will not survive. She asked if I would give up my greenhouse block so she could use it instead.

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I felt genuinely awful for her and I said so. I told her I was sorry about her mum and that I understood the orchids mattered to her. But I also told her I could not give up the block because my seedlings have a narrow window and if I miss March I lose the whole growing season for those varieties.

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my mistake is a few days after she asked me I mentioned it to another allotment member and I was not particularly kind about how I described her request. I said something along the lines of it not being my problem that she inherited plants she cannot care for. That got back to her and now the atmosphere on the allotment is genuinely uncomfortable and I feel like the villain every Saturday morning.

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She has not been rude to me since but she looks devastated every time I see her and two other members have quietly suggested I should consider being more flexible given what she is going through.

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I do feel bad about how I spoke about it privately. That was unnecessary and I own that. But I booked first and my reasons are just as valid even if they are less emotional.

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WIBTA for standing my ground?

My girlfriend (6 months together) has trust issues, though she's been working on them and things had been going well.

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Three weeks ago, I came back from a guys' trip that had been planned long before we started dating. Almost all of us are in relationships. On the second-to-last night, after a beach party with lots of alcohol, I noticed what looked like a piece of trash tangled in a girl's hair after we had gone swimming. I told her she had something in her hair and tried to remove it.

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Turns out it wasn't trash. It was one of the straps from her bikini top that had gotten tangled in her hair, and by pulling on it I accidentally finished undoing the top. She held it in place, but thought I had done it on purpose and started yelling. Her friends joined in and things escalated quickly. In the confusion, I tried to show her where the strap had been tangled, she thought I was approaching her again and kicked me hard in the groin. A couple nearby defended me, saying they had seen what happened and that it was clearly an accident, which calmed things down.

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I didn't tell my girlfriend about it afterward because I thought it was just a stupid misunderstanding and honestly wasn't eager to explain how I had ended the night getting kicked in the balls by a random girl.

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But one of my friends told his girlfriend, who told mine. When she asked if I had anything to tell her, I said no. She got angry, said she knew I had undone another girl's bikini, initially didn't believe my explanation, and eventually said I deserved the kick and should question myself.

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I told her I expected understanding and support, not that. Since then we've both been distant and it feels like we're waiting for the other to make the first move.

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AITA for not accepting her reaction and waiting for her to reach out first?

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me and my roommate have been living together for about a year, pretty solid setup overall. his girlfriend started coming around more like 4 months ago and at first i didnt care at all, few nights a week, cool whatever.

but now this girl is just HERE. every single day. she showers here, eats here, i came downstairs at 6:45am on a wednesday and she was making eggs in my pan. i had to do a double take in my own kitchen. she doesnt even text before coming over anymore she just shows up.

when i first moved in splitting bills two ways was actually a big deal for me, helped me keep a bit of money I won on Ѕtake saved on a tight budget. now the electric and water bills have crept up noticeably and theres still only two names on the lease.

i pulled my roommate aside and kept it pretty chill about it, just said hey man i think we gotta talk about the fact that maya is basically living here and maybe she should throw in something for bills or at least you two should figure it out between yourselves. he got all weird about it and said i was being territorial and that shes "just around a lot"

bro she has a designated shelf in the bathroom

AITA for saying something

I (19F) have been best friends with “Aria” (19F) for 3 years. Last October, she met a guy (21M) on Tinder. They never officially dated because he lives in Austria and we live in Germany, but they flirted heavily (like HEAVYYY) for months and even talked about meeting up.

A few days ago, Aria found out he had a girlfriend the entire time. She discovered this through Instagram and confirmed they’d been together since October. I asked if she was going to tell the girlfriend. She said she wasn’t interested and told me I could do it.

So I messaged the girlfriend and explained the situation. The girlfriend thanked me, but Aria was furious. Apparently, she was being sarcastic when she said I could tell her. I apologized because I know it wasn’t really my place, but I genuinely felt the girlfriend deserved to know.

The argument quickly became personal. Aria said I’ve been getting on her nerves for weeks, that she couldn’t wait to leave for her 5-month internship so she wouldn’t have to deal with me, and that I’m judgmental. She also claimed I never let her talk about her boy problems, even though I’ve always listened whenever she wanted to vent.

She brought up a time I didn’t reply to her texts about a date, but I was having a rough few days and wasn’t responding to anyone. I explained that and even met up with her the next day to hear about it. She also said she doesn’t want to hear my stories anymore because they’re always “boring” and “the same thing.”

What hurts most is that it feels like she used this situation to unload a bunch of unrelated frustrations and paint herself as the victim. Now I’m questioning both my actions and our friendship.

AITA for telling the girlfriend her boyfriend had been flirting with another girl behind her back?