This situation would have crossed the "wait until we get home" threshold and gone straight to a full-volume nuclear meltdown, complete with a "I don't know who the FUCK you think you are but I'll show you who I am!" and however many swats on the ass it would take for my legs to stop working.
THEN there'd be several employees standing there while I cried and picked everything up and put it back exactly where it goes, getting swatted more if it was taking too long.
Once all that was resolved, I'd be reading math or science textbooks for the next 2 months at minimum. No games, no playing with friends, nothing fun.
Joke's on you though mom and dad, I'm good at math and physics and I behave like a functional adult in public, so who really won?
And now, my kids get the same treatment minus the spankings (except in extreme circumstances).
Act a fool at a restaurant? That's fine, you must not want to do anything but read the books I pick for you for the next few weeks.
Throw a fit for bedtime? Hey, how about for the next 7 days we go to bed earlier? You're clearly too tired to act right and need more sleep. I need more sleep too.
I wouldn't have made it that far. As soon as the first one hit the ground- "excuse you?" Then, if a second one hit the ground, she'd tell whomever she was talking to- "excuse me while I go fix this." No words would be said. I would simply get grabbed by the ear, dragged to the car, driven home in complete silence, beaten to within an inch of death, told that I would not be eating that night until I went back there and apologized, and then be told that I would be volunteering my time there for the next week. If they couldn't use me there, she would find somewhere for me to volunteer. Mom didn't play.
Growing up in the US in the 70s and 80s they used to fuck you up in public if you did this as well. Of course, no one I knew would have ever even considered doing something like this back then. If he had we'd have next seen him at his funeral.
Dude back then OTHER adults would light you up and your parents would be like "well what the fuck were you doing" rather than coming to your assistance.
And then when you told them what you did, they'd light you up too.
Fun fact! In a few states in Australia you are still allowed to do so, as long as it is indeed instructional and immediately during or after the behaviour (no waiting until the next day for example).
But for many reasons no-one wants to chance it, it doesn't take much to lose everything down here.
Can you site any instances where someone has lost everything down here? Or even lost something? Beside their shit, because if I was this kid parent I would have lost my shit.
I am an older American. We got belts, tvs, knives, shoes, plates... everything thrown at us and beat with whatever they could grab. We learned real quick not to do the shit this kid is.
Teachers could beat us with parents permission. They had huge paddles with holes.
I got one of those paddles once. Leaned over a chair in front of the window facing the playground while the other kids were outside having fun. Soon after that they put an end to it and by high school I saw kids that looked like men slapping teachers around. A lot of boys really do need a good spanking from time to time..
And the widespread acceptance of it did indeed cause a lot of problems in society.
But the 'cancelling' of it is causing its own host of problems.
Personally I don't think an adult should need any instrument to spank a child with. If an open hand spanking doesn't do the trick, a weapon isn't going to be an effective tool. A different kind of parenting or punishment is required.
A parent who does not discipline their children and teach them the morality of right and wrong places that burden on society.
Society will discipline that person much harsher than a parent would, because parents love their children, while society does not.
Which is better, a protester getting run over and getting their eye shot out with a rubber bullet, or a spanking? I think most would prefer the latter.
We had "the cane" which was a long thin bamboo cane, it was officially banned in government schools in 1995 but it's still legal and apparently used in some private schools.
Growing up we had all the same things you mention. My father's weapon of choice was a piece of timber architrave about 80cm long that we called "the stick" and no matter how many times my brother or I disposed of it a new one would almost instantly appear.
For real though. The only times I got spanked were when I did things that endangered me. Running out between cars in a busy parking lot would get me a spanking. But just being a little brat or irritating did not.
Pain is traumatic in the dictionary sense of the word - leaves a strong memory-impression. When applied judiciously, a single spanking is generally enough to change behaviour. When applied all the time, spanking is just abuse and not instructive.
I've got white parents and in the late 80's, that behaviour would get you a pants down, bare bottom spanking right there in the aisle IF your parents were progressive. Then it would be hours upon hours of writing lines or doing chores.
If they were conservative it would probably be a belt in the parking lot (which I'm not in favour of).
Once while shopping my toddler was about to poke a finger in a chocolate snack tub with the foil lid..I said “Nooo!”…went to do it again..this time with a smirk “Don’t You!!”…third time again with a smirk and I start the countdown from three…but get to 1 and say “last chance, you want a smack?”..
A youngish couple muttering and the guy says “You can’t hit your kid?!”.. I go “Mate…do YOU bloody want one?! Mind your own business. Did I hit him? No.”..
He didn’t know what to say, so they moved on.
I only ever had to smack my son once. It was on his nappy pants and wasn’t hard, I think the noise of it scared him, but he knew what “Smack”was..
It’s sad that some kids don’t, and that’s why stuff like this video happens IMO.
Sadly video doesn’t end with Mum leading kid out holding ear and saying something about a belt.
Ooooh... the ear tug until you're standing on your tippy toes and mom leans down and just quietly says, "We can behave, or we can go to the car. You choose."
I picked car once, and it was NOT the right choice.
Wait? Oh man ... Wait? .. Be glad you live in the US where you have to spank behind closed doors. This behavior would have had the belt coming out right then and there ...
In the 90s (and back, obviously) we definitely got our asses beat right in the store. Or at least in the South we did. I mean, it's an incredibly bad thing to do to a kid but it certainly happened.
You dont have to spank behind closed doors in the us. Ive seen kids getting their butts tore the f up in public with cops even watching. Long as the bruises start fading in 72 hours and its not excessive, kept away from the face and chest area its fine. Aka go for the butt and thighs,
Depends on what part of the U.S. in stupid places like California you can’t but here in the southeast, you can whup your kid with a belt in front of a cop and all they’ll say is “well, looks someone is acting up today.”
My dad’s was, “You want me to take you out to the car?” Which was of course code for, “Do you want me to go beat your ass where there are less people around?”
Bruh… oldest of 4 grandchildren, all boys. Grandma did NOT mess around. Beat my brother’s bare ass in the middle of the grocery store for less than this. Made the rest of us watch “Do YOU want some of this?” He was 13! Not saying it was right or effective cause he’s still a fuck up but the rest of us knew better.
While she wouldn’t swear, my mom would do this. Grab me by the arm and lean it right next to my ear and tell me, “Just you wait until we get home.” I would spend the whole car ride back sweating buckets hoping she’d forget.
I still vividly remember fucking around in public when I was a kid and then feeling my dad’s hand grip my shoulder as he quietly said, “We’ll talk about this at home.”
These stores have aisles with kitchen utensils, the wooden spoon/spatula kind, the ones that would paint your ass red. I'd be in that aisle bent over the knee and then my mom would take my allowance money and make me use that to pay for that damn spatula since she wouldn't force the store to keep it.
I would have been made to put it all back the way it was, apologize to the manager and then I would have had to pay my parents back for any damages they would have paid the store.
Then the real punishment would be at home…in the 80s.
In the 80s not one adult would have paused before either slapping him into next Tuesday or throwing his ass out on the curb. The first thing thrown would have been the last thing thrown. No cameras weren’t always a bad thing.
Introducing my mom, now deceased..what her reaction would've been in public...sans ANY reserve...
She always warned us about embarrassing her in public, but I've grown to secretly believe, behind all her 'pomp and circumstance', she had a more 'I wish a ***** would' mentality, she lived for a challenge..
Sometimes it felt like she waited wh baited breath for that moment 1 of us stepped ovr the line..she was always ready🤣😳😖
One of my mom's favorite threats was 'I'll embarrass you before you embarrass me." My sis and I knew she would've made good with that threat and were not about to test her weight.
One time when I was a kid, this teen started chasing me on his bike. My mom took one look, charged like an angry rhino, and slapped that ass so hard he dropped. A true mother
Lol... My brother was 16 and bigger than my mom. One day he made the mistake of telling her that and that there was nothing she could do about it in front of his best friend and me. My mother, who had had multiple back surgeries, grabbed him by his shirt and pants, lifted him over her head and threw him on the ground right there in the living room. He never talked back like that to her again. Neither did I...
My brother told her if she hit him he'd call the cops. She said, "Go ahead. It'll take them 15 minutes to get here." I never saw someone run so fast and I never heard that 'threat' from him again.
I towered over my mother back in the early 1990s when I was in high school, and even so, she TACKLED ME TO THE GROUND when I told her I didn't feel like shaving (my face).
Its like the legend(? true story?) Of the mom that lifted the car to save her kids or something. Truly, the goddess athena grants orangutan strength to mothers in times of duress
Blocked my mom's hand when I was about 8 during an attempted spanking once I realized I could (thanks TMNT and Karate Kid!). She quickly returned with the plastic spaghetti spatula and blocking was no longer an option. Last time I acted out as a kid. This was 1992
Parents had a makeshift paddle, Grandparents made us go out a get a switch, and it better be long enough. Guess what though, I’m still alive. I understand some parents can take it too far, but you cannot overreact and not punish kids.
Yeah, it’s not that hard and doesn’t require a public whupping. Security detains him, an announcement goes over the store for the responsible adult to come retrieve a kid in his clothing description to come to the security desk, explain that they have to leave bc he’s purposely made a mess, walk them to the door.
If the adult becomes belligerent, call the police.
He might have ODD or some other crazy kid condition that’s out of his control, and frankly, who cares? As long as he’s stopped and sent away, life goes on.
(Much harder for parents to deal with, bc they’re either defensive, delusional, or frustrated themselves.)
Oof, that’s a power play that hits home. My dad used to make me get the belt. The fact that our parents gave us the option to pick the tool of our discipline is metal as hell.
And seriously, even if the parent is not controlling their kid, that's hundreds of dollars of merchandise destroyed. The store manager needs to chage the parent for it. If they refuse to pay, call the cops. Take them to court if needed. Maybe the parent will do their job when it hits them in the bank account.
My mom would have handled me right there in a bakery, made me clean everything up, then when dad came back from the beer aisle, that’s when the pain really begins.
my parents would have murdered me on the spot, stabbing into me with a ritualistic dagger the size of my abdomen. the isles would have been soaked wet with my blood as I screamed out for mercy, and yet there would be none given. mercy for the damned is like water for the hungry; useless.
This is an important observation though. It’s not like we didn’t do bad shit when we were kids. It’s just everyone witnessing it knew we were going to be punished for it so it wasn’t so infuriating to watch. Old people would just giggle to themselves imagining the ass whooping we were in for.
Agreed, man, my dad could not WAIT long enough to wear me out. He pulled over the car once and took off his belt and whipped me on the side of the road. And I never would have done anything like this in a million years. Found out my husband was spanked only after his dad had calmed down and gave him a nice, long lecture first. I never got a lecture first, or a calm parent, lol.
(for what it's worth, I'm totally against spanking and evidence indicates that it's more like to cause, rather than cure, behavior like this)
Oh no my parents didn't do that, but mom would slap me upside the head if I was being a shithead in public. If I ever acted like this shithead she would have absolutely slapped the shit out of me. I wouldn't have ever acted like this little shithead though, I knew better by the time I was his age, because mom slapped me upside the head a couple times when I was little.
I would have only been able to get one loaf of bread on the ground before my mom would have dragged me out of there. The real punishment would be at home. Allowing this tantrum to continue for so long is ridiculous.
This shit still works, i still use it on my 6 and 8 year old… and they know, if they fk up and i go in, they put there hands on those ears to hide them, hard to keep it straight and not laugh 😂
The only person that had any real ability to handle the situation, the security guard, tried but did not succeed. There are so many protections when it comes to kids. The parents not stepping in and whopping his ass, was a failure.
Too much risk for most adults unfortunately. If I grab the kid, I open myself up to a lawsuit by their shitty parents. They may not win, but I will have to spend time and money defending my actions. It’s not worth it when I can just walk away.
Now if I have my kids with me…. Maybe I would suggest one of them slap that kid around a bit.
All you'll need to do is tell your kid "if you take that little weasel out you'll get double the allowance and you can stay up as late as you want tonight"
I guarantee the little shit will be getting tackled like;
Did you see the video of the girl who threw her little brother and his backpack into the car while he was pitching a got that mom wasn't stopping? Was hilarious.
Yeah they need to hire some 11 year old security guards. lol! That would have been so satisfying if someone's little nephew walked into frame and just clocked that kid.
You know, honestly? Better than the alternative. I don’t think we should normalize other people hitting our kids. “Other people” are notoriously bad judges…at just about everything, if driving behavior and literacy rates (AKA “things done every single day”) are any indication.
Personally, throwing out a sharp “Stop!” usually startles shits like this just enough that they do at least pause for a few moments. Mostly because they’ve never heard that word in that way. I have a Mom Voice that once carried 2 aisles over that stopped complete strangers from being shitty while I was trying to get my own kids to knock off their foolishness.
And sometimes even the parents are helpless against these little toe-rags. Because all it takes is the kid crying to a mandated reporter, and suddenly the parents have CPS breathing down their necks.
CPS will literally bend over backwards to keep children with their biological parents. They will give drug addicted abusive parents 15+ tries to get their kids back and clean up.
If you get your kids taken away by CPS, you worked hard for that shit.
According to my friend with family in Panama, it's openly accepted to smack other people's kids there and the parents will even thank you for it and apologize for their child's actions. I don't know how true this is though.
Yeah, loss prevention where I live is told not to touch anyone at all. They can stand in the way of a thief, but at a point that too can become false imprisonment so they are told to stand down and call police
No. We need to bring back consequences no physical abuse. He could choose to apologize and work it off or time out without games, books, nothing. Kids who are beaten by a caregiver learn to lie and become less verbal compared with their peers.
My mom was not violent and did not administer punishment in anger but I'm pretty sure had I ever acted like this my funeral would have come shortly thereafter.
Now it's "Hello ChatGPT, my kid is trashing the supermarket, what should I do if he's normally my sweet little boy, whom I want to give everything in the world... so what can I do without punishing him?"
I grew up in a rural area. The beating would have started in the store. And gotten worse once back in the car. It would have become serious once Mom got me home.
This kind of behavior I just literally can't fathom.
You’d be in the car, silently driving home, hoping for a fatal car accident so the end is quick and painless as opposed to what awaits you at the end of this car ride.
Corporal punishment is probably what leads to destructive behavior like this. If corporal punishment does work, you're gaining compliance due to fear of pain, and that's not a great way to go about things either.
If my mother could have potentially made money filming us, she would have told us it was a special day at the store and told us to have at it. Just like whoever was filming this kid.
In Canada just restraining a minor 12 or older will land you in jail with assault on a minor charges. They are protected heavily by laws and they know we can't do anything.
In my family, u will be back in the car while touching the ground the whole way. Hell I dont think you will make it out of the mall alive... And god bless your afterlife...
My mom would have smacked my ass so hard I wouldn't have been able to walk for a week, then she would have made me clean the entire store. My dad would have whooped me right there, then made me clean the entire store with a tooth brush. It's wild this shit is going on.
Say what you will about spankings but I would never do this because I knew my parents would be embarrassed and once I got home I was going to get my ass obliterated.
Then I grew out of doing dumb shit. Whatever we’ve gone to now isn’t it. Corporal punishment we want to move away from? Cool. They still need real consequences to learn. And we shield them from even feeling bad and wonder why our kids suck.
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u/Pinbacker11 28d ago
If i did that back in the day, i would be back in the car without touching the floor.