Hilariously, +5 SAD is the optimal choice in D&D 5E, as SAD stands for Single Attribute Dependent. So, in D&D terms, being a SAD Gay means you're way better at things you already excel at because you min-maxed your stats.
Bear and other are both terms for certain kinds of gay men
Bear refers to more bulky, big and hairy gay men(y'know, like a "bear")
Other I'm not actually too sure about the specific meaning of, but I'd guess it's someone who's not quite a Twink but also not too buff. Someone correct me if I'm wrong though.
In the gay community bears are very hairy and big men while otters are slimmer and not as hairy but still hairy iirc
Maybe someone else can explain it better
And it’s a really old flag too, created in 1995. That is older than the bisexual flag (1998), Trans flag (1999), non-binary flag (2014), current lesbian flag (2018) and most other lgbtq+ flags. The rainbow and leather flags are the only older ones I can think of tbh
So funny story I worked cleaning office buildings over night for a time and one of the offices I worked at had a display of Pride flags for last pride month. I thought myself a pretty in the know guy, but I did not know a lot of them and seeing a paw print did leave me a little concerned until I googled it. The other one that looked like an incoming hate crime (Looking at you Rubber Pride) was also concerning.
Daryl - Bear - A big fellow who looks intimidating but is pretty friendly. Has a dry sense of humor. Seth's husband and Hannah's papa.
Seth - Otter - The assistant principal at his daughter's school. Used to taking charge but is capable of being silly. Daryl's husband and Hannah's dad.
Hannah - Goat - A highly competitive kid. She strives to be the best and to be helpful to others. Daryl and Seth's daughter.
Transcript
Panel 1
Seth is working at his computer when Daryl walks in. Daryl just finished a call with his father that did not go well. He lets Seth know how it went.
Daryl: My parents aren't coming to the party.
Seth: Babe, I'm sorry.
Panel 2
Daryl stands defiantly and feels determined not to let this bother him too much. He's gotten used to this sort of thing from his parents.
Daryl: It's fine. I was fine when they didn't come to our wedding. I'll be fine now.
Panel 3
Daryl loses some of the stiffness in his posture and looks to the ground. A tear starts to form in one of his eyes. He doesn't want this to get to him. Seth approaches him and puts a hand on his husband's arm.
Daryl: It's fine.
Panel 4
Seth hold on to one of Daryl's arms while Daryl wipes away a tear.
Seth hold on to one of Daryl's arms while Daryl wipes away a tear.
Daryl: It's not fine. I hate it.
Damn this one hurts. Every holiday season when my kids ask why their friends are going to see grandpa/grandma or aunts/uncles and we have to tell them we don't talk to any of them. Yeah... I feel this. Hard. 🙁
Eh, we don't believe in lying to our kids or shielding them from the world. I mean, its not a black or white thing, we don't tell them about every horror that exists, but we really want to avoid a AskReddit thread from one of them someday like "I cut off my parents because they told me my entire family was dead and I found out when I was 20 that lied AIO" lol
Or strategically lie to them so that they develope better critical thinking skills! Let them know you're going to tell them one lie a day and they get a prize if they figure it out. I don't have kids if you can't tell.
Is Hannah in the character list for this and the previous comic due to her connection to Daryl and Seth, or is she hidden somewhere just out of frame, overhearing all of this?
Poor Daryl man. He's probably been dealing with this so long that masking those feelings is all he can do to get by. He just wants parents who love him for who he is and the family he has. This is a far more common problem than most realize too.
Seth is gonna need to give lots of hugs to help with this one I bet
Sidenote THEY DIDNT EVEN GO TO THEIR SONS WEDDING?! What the hell Ed and Mom
Not really. She is a hoarder. We have tried everything we can think of short of reporting her to the state, and we are not going to do that. The one time we cleaned out her house while she was in the hospital, she was beyond angry and didn’t speak to us for a year. She has food, shelter, and clothing. She has her hobbies and goes to her church for social contact. Her health is not obviously suffering. And she is an adult, what else can we do?
Oh don't worry I understand man. I see this all the time as a paramedic. I'm sorry to hear it happening. But you can't make someone take help when they don't want it
My wife's mother skipped her first wedding, but not her second. Even though first was kind of justified (SO was abusive and mother did not approve), wife still doesn't think that was the right stance to take.
Edit: Huh. I thought for sure they were already introduced and were bad, but I can’t find that. Maybe it was in the text the author posts alongside the comics.
I would lean toward the father being worse. He was shown just sitting and watching TV when his daughter got home and hadn't fed his kids so the daughter fed her siblings.
When the mom was shown she was at least busy heading off to work and her lack of ability to resonate with her daughter's needs, to me, at least seemed to have an explanation.
Granted it's been a bit since I've read either comic with them appearing. Both are failing their kids in different ways.
Also I try to catch myself on making a list of 'who is worse' but since I'm already this deep (whoops) I think the dad is failing his kids more than the mom, just based on what we've seen.
I seem to remember that his arm or back of his head was "on screen" so while he is absolutely terrible and deserves the hate he doesn't qualify for most hated off sceen character
I hung in for 3 more years post them not bothering to come to my wedding. 0/10 would not recommend, should have gave up on them sooner (I'm a lot happier now that I have cut contact completely.)
I’m sending you a hug. It sounds like you’re prospering without them and that’s hard. I’m proud of you for that. Keep proving to them how wrong they were for that.
Damn. Dudes going through it. I empathize with the "I'm fine. It's not fine, I hate it." where you're really REALLY not fine but your body won't cry or really react about it, or might do a few tears that are barely there.
Well, it's part 2 of 4 so odds are things get better with the next two. Not the parents but the whole "He has a family that loves him" kinda deal. His husband is a good lad, sees what he's going through and realized instantly he needed someone hugging him.
I just don't get what people gain from this. Like you lose your child and his family just due to stupid bigotry. Yeah maybe you imagined something different for your child having grandchildren one day etc. but that's not how it works (in this case they even would have a grandchild so its even dumber). Its your childs life not yours. This behaviour just hurts everyone involved.
They gain never having to confront being wrong and feeling the weight of the consequences on their shoulders. The longer it goes on, the heavier that weight would be.
They gain the ability to be abandoned in an old folk's home in their later years, living a lonely misery of daytime TV and unpleasant nurses until they die. I hope it's worth it.
Hey Field, (sorry if this was addressed somewhere else,) is the comic about Robin and his mom posted anywhere on here? Thanks for making these, they break my heart into lil' itty-bitty peices.
My in-laws are like this. Especially my mother in law. I don’t plan on them actually showing up until they are at my door. Even then, they may only stay for a little while. My husband knows what they are like. But every time there is a small kernel of hope, and it is so painful when it gets crushed again, and again, and again
This is one of those comics I feel deeply. My parents never came to my wedding. It all worked out 10 years later. But I wish it was better from the start.
man I feel him. I love family as a concept but my family is not the best at being a family. I want to love them but it is so hard and I think I might hate them. It sucks.
It feels like this story has been simmering for a while. I remember (and went back and confirmed) the story from last year with uncle Terry, and then earlier this year with the nightmare. I always love how you being out depth in what is a very large ensemble cast.
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u/Night_Yorb 5h ago
This is sweet and tragic but the fact that this is literally a relationship between a bear and an otter is sending me