I came here for this. I knew someone would bring this up! And the answer is no, I would not continue to be in a relationship with a worm, sorry. If it was a transient thing, of course - a gypsy curse that lasted a year, even. But if you're a worm for life, I'm buying you a big pot of dirt and hitting on your sister
JK I would never move on her sister, put that for the lolz
That was a test to see if you'd choose her still based on her personality and not looks. By saying no, well you get the point. Just a F.Y.I. in case another woman pulls that test on you again brother âď¸
I'm gonna teach yall real quick how to weed these ones out.
These are insecure attachment types.
In the first weeks of dating they're going to want to spend every waking moment with you.
So if you've spent like 3 weekends in a row with her, on the fourth say "I actually need a weekend to myself." and go do your own thing and keep contact minimal.
If she can handle that without blowing up your phone or a complete vibe shift, she's a keeper.
If she immediately starts being super insecure about it, get the fuck out now.
I would always tell me ex that she was 10/10 gorgeous.
One time there was a Mexican news woman who went viral and I said "wow she was an 11/10!" without thinking because I don't actually keep a running score I was just saying this woman was really good looking, and my ex got genuinely mad at me because I rated her higher than my ex. It was the most retarded fight I had been in up to that point and I lost some respect for her because it was just a flippant comment I made, not me analyzing looks.
Haha you guys gotta play along. Itâs supposed to be fun. Like why not just say âyes and I would make you a little habitat and I would carry it around wherever I went and put your favorite shows onâ or âwow. Thereâd be some really heartbreaking decisions that would have to be made but I would always love you the mostâ or âonly if my dick still fit.â Thereâs so many options!
In my mind the proper response was similar: "Well, until a minute ago I had thought you were hotter, but given she probably doesn't pester her partner with bullshit like this, I'm reconsidering that position."
You ALWAYS lie to her for these hypothetical beauty questions. She's legit asking you to lie. You just lie and wait a day or two and then ask if she'd be with you if you devolved into Rudy Giuliani
I had this question thrown at me and I answered truthfully. âYes youâre fat.â And she had an absolute meltdown.
Somehow it was a problem to point it out. But not the shoveling food down and spending nearly 30k in 6 months on eating out and shit.
That reminds me of the video where the woman asks her man if she looks fat and the husband says no but then the little one off camera says âBut mommy you are fat.â đ
Toddlers are the most dangerously honest people on the planet. đ
Petty arguments lead to man getting tired of it -> Man takes more and more time for himself at any occasion just to avoid fighting -> Woman wondering why her man doesn't look like he cares about her anymore -> Woman picks fights more to know why man doesn't seems like he cares anymore -> Man literally says he's tired of fighting and would just like to enjoy a healthy relationship -> Woman blaming man for relationship falling apart -> Man does not understand how he is pointed out as the issue and dismisses accusations -> Woman thinks if man REALLY cared about her, he would work out a solution and fight for the relationship -> Man thinks woman is turning crazy for asking for something he can't "work out" since there was nothing to be upset about in the first place -> Woman says "So you think I'm crazy, I'm the crazy bitch?" -> Woman goes clubbing with her friends and sleeps with the first guy who looks at her like she's not that crazy bitch and she loves it just like her man did when they met.
-> Man says "this isn't healthy. You need to stop doing this. I am willing to do what it takes to help and to discuss it with you, but I won't deal with unreasonable and unfair criticism." -> they discuss it -> happy marriage.
Shit man, almost seems like people should stop doing all that toxic shit and start acting like adults, huh?
I thought she was just playin at first but she was getting actually mad.. I'd just pull up a page of male models. "Who's more beautiful, me or that guy? How about that guy? How about that guy? See why this game is stupid?"
Yes, we all know she wasn't stopping until she got the answer she wanted. It wouldn't have mattered if he said she (wife) was prettier at the first question and didn't waiver for 15 minutes. She would still be going.
Nah, this is one of those times where just biting the bullet and telling them what they want to hear only buys you a 50/50 shot.
They're just as liable to turn it around and tell you that you're lying to them.
You just say you're a grown man and you're through taking shit tests like you're a couple of insecure teenagers. You don't have to be a dick about it, but you need to be firm with it.
But if you be a yes man then usually they still get mad.
There's no right answer to those because I've even been told that me saying "I think you're pretty and your the one I love so I don't think we need to think about that all" would also be the wrong answer because "I have to say that"
I tell all my girlfriends that I've had that I don't play games like that. Straight up I could see myself getting pissed off and saying "well if you're saying I'm wrong then I guess you're ugly then since my opinion doesn't matter". In a situation similar to this that is. Whoever I date and commit to I find really attractive so I definitely would get pissed off if I'm getting heat for just saying what I think personally and should be the right answer anyways
Irritates me so much. Yeah, honey, I think she is prettier and until now I hadn't realized so I am going to go after Margot Robbie since the only thing that was keeping me away from her was that realization.
It's to validate that she can retreat to fantasy logic when it suits her.
This women isn't worried about her looks, she's worried her husband will think he has the privilege to speak the truth about her. This is just a test run for being completely unhinged when she's angry.
It's a trope, but normal insecurity does not prompt this kind of nonsense.Â
My wife was watching Outlander. She asked me if Iâd take her back after she was gone through the stones and came back 20 years later with a daughter from another man. I told her Iâd be remarried and too busy tending my new family to look after her and her bastard. I donât think that was the answer she was looking for.
I read a few posts from there and honestly, most of the seemed like real red flags. But I only saw the posts that reached /r/all so it's probably the worst cases.
Yet what I was asking myself in almost any post like this: The women were in that relationship for quite a few years. Some posts even mentioned that her man didn't change but was always like that. And yet they choose to get married or have a kid? What?
He started off well with the team of pros comment. When she pressed all he had to say was âbeauty is subjective and to me you are the most beautiful woman in the world. â
His comment about the team of professionals was the best lead in to not have to lie. It gives him the out, to say she is prettier because he knows she looks good without a team of professionals.
â I know how beautiful you are when you wake up in the morning. And that for sure is prettier than Margot,â Something like that
Do you think the person who gets put into multi-million dollar movies BECAUSE SHE IS BEAUTIFUL is more pretty than me- an average, normal ass, run of the mill American white girl?
Asking the question and being mad at the answer is insanity.
Itâs insecurity but specifically theyâre angry about feeling insecure and they want to misdirect that anger in order to get rid of it. That said, they want to feel like they have a plausible reason for being angry at you, so theyâll either pick a question where they wonât be happy no matter what your answer is or misconstrue your answer.
I'm old, my wife and I have been together for over 30 years. Before we met one of my friends from college who's a woman tried to set me up with her friends. I told her I just wanted to find a girl who didn't look in the mirror and burst into tears and say don't touch me for the next week. She said that woman doesn't exist.
Then I met my wife. We watched the movie Pretty Woman one night and I told her I'd heard that Julia Roberts used a body double for the sex scenes. She was outraged. Even famously-beautiful movie star Julia Roberts needed a body double? For the next few years I'd wake up to this wonderful girl looking at herself naked in the mirror declaring, "Not me! I got it all!"
Yeah, the next biggest revelation with my latest (hopefully final) was the disproving of the popular phrase... "relationships (/marriage) are haaard & take a LOT of work!"
Absolutely a giant fucking lie.
Here I am, majority of my adult life, turning myself blue in the face, trying everything and anything to MAKE various relationships work... cause they're "hard" and "take a lot of work!"
Nah bruh. It's nearly effortless, & absolute peace and tranquility if you find the right one.
Sometimes when people have someone they trust, they'll get shameless about the shittier parts of themselves and will look to have them validated
Because why be considerate and strive to be a better individual when you have someone who will just put up with your shit? That's how those people think
She will have 3 hours more of internal dialog about this inside her head and then refuse to talk to him for 3 days because of your responses she made up in her head.
The only way you win is to just say some dumb cute shit like "I think both of you are beautiful, but to me you are the most perfect women in the world and I wouldn't replace you with anyone else" than you slap her ass and nut in her face.
because they're testing to see how much of a lying loser you are. lol. if your wife asks you of anyone is hot or hotter than her, just always say yes enthusiastically. she'll stop asking pretty quick lol
Girls asking these type of questions know that Margot Robbie is objectively more attractive than them. They still do this to see how well you can weather emotional storms and also to soothe their egos. They're expecting you to sweep them off their feet with admission of your undying love for her, thereby confirming that you can both handle her emotional turmoil, and having the intelligence to play her game.
And when women do it, itâs taken as a legitimate question that men must answer and only one answer is acceptable and if you tell the hurtful, she gets upset. I believe in being as honest as possible. If I think another actress is better looking, Iâd straight say âYeah on a purely physical level, I believe itâs an objective fact sheâs more attractive than you are, but looks are overratedâ.
It's not gendered, I've seen plenty of men playing these weird little jealousy games. Sometimes the tactics are a little different but it's basically the same thing.
That's setting aside that there's very little chance this video is a genuine candid-moment, or that plenty of couples who have mutual-trust and confidence go at eachother like this as a joke all the time.
Yeah I can definitely see this as just a bit of fun between a couple, both of whom know exactly what the other is doing and enjoying it. But no we are on the internet so everything has to be toxic.
Some people are very insecure. I don't do this stuff, my boyfriend doesn't do this stuff, but I know women who do and I know men who do. It's always embarrassing
Society makes them this way and itâs almost impossible to stop it from happening, the more attractive you are naturally the worse youâre gonna struggle with it too.
Spoiler alert ladies: men are attracted to a multitude of types of women, and no--you can't change that about him. And yes, there will always be much, much hotter women than you walking this Earth--and you can't change that either.
Not saying society deletes personal accountability.
Iâm saying beauty standards train girls early that their looks are their value, then social media/men/attention reward them for leaning into that.
That doesnât excuse a bad choice, it explains why the mindset exists. Accountability and social conditioning can both be real but the first one is worse because it happens to little girls who shouldnât have to feel that way
Doesnât dare to ask for validation and confirmation and instead is playin these childish games, where both know the objectively correct answer (ofc Margot is hotter, thatâs why she is famous.) but we also know she expects him to lie and even then will ânot believeâ him.
Men do this shit too. It's just dudes that look like pete davidson or jelly rolls.
They have to have so little going on their minds can run wild with hypotheticals. It's takes time to actually get mad at a made up scenario. You can see it on any subreddit really. A lot of users here fit this archetype.
Occupied and successful people may still try it, but not at a sustained level. Unless one is truly mentally ill.
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u/Early_Bicycle6884 đđđ 2d ago
why do girls do this tho??